Now that the marriage of myself to my beta wife is coming up soon, a certain question is coming up. All of you who are married recently or have a certain condition know what I mean.
When are you having kids?
Notice how there is a presumption within the question. It’s not “Do you plan to? And if so, when?” it’s “Since you are clearly going to, when do you plan to start?”
The question is phrased in various ways and not nearly that direct. It’s statements like “So, are you guys planning on having kids, even though you’re not yet married and have other things to sort out?” with a smiley nod. Or “If you want to have kids, you need to get started soon” (since I am 32 and the BW is 29).
I always knew that the question was coming, and others have talked about it, but I couldn’t relate to it until it actually started happening. The fact is that if we divide up our life into phases, the phase that the both of us have planned is between now and the end of September, and to a lesser extent the end of the December, and that phase includes getting married, taking a trip to New Zealand, and moving all of the BW’s stuff from her place to my place and figuring out a plan to either sell her place (preferable) or rent it out (more likely). Beyond that is up in the air.
Don’t worry, if we’re going to have kids, rest assured you will all find out on Facebook.
You know me, I hate that question. Davey and I have delt with it for 3+ years now. I finally found the perfect answer that throws people off, and I love using it:
THEM: “So, when are you guys going to have kids?”
ME: “No.”